Broken 

I read this. I had to share. Please read. Good day.

Mind Conversations

When I was growing up I knew I was going to be successful. I loved school and my grades were in line with my dreams.I imagined having a family, a beautiful house, a nice car, gorgeous kids and taking family vacations, everything looked so real.I just couldn’t wait to grow up.

Last year, as the year was coming to an end, I almost lost my job and things didn’t get better after that, so I decided to quit my job and figure my life out. Everything wasn’t going according to plan. I finished school, got good grades in campus, got a job then another then another and now I was tired of looking. So I decided to start my business. It seemed like a great idea. Now all my childhood fantasies were on the way to becoming a reality. I had a few friends to back me up on the…

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It’s Time To Take Your Life Back From What Broke You

a step at a time

Thought Catalog

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Take your life back from your flaws. You are so much more than your mistakes, and the things you dislike about yourself. Tell me, who were you before you let your flaws define you? Before you zoned in on your shortcomings, your imperfections and your weaknesses? Who were you before you allowed such things to dictate your existence? Before you started saying no to living when it tapped on your shoulder because you were disappointed with your body, because you didn’t believe in yourself, because you constantly compared your value to what others portrayed around you? Who were you before you let your faults limit you, and what have you given up, what opportunities have you held like sand between your fingertips because you empowered your insecurities instead of empowering your confidence?

Take your life back from what broke you. The past is meant to etch lessons into…

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How To Ruin Your Life (Without Even Noticing That You Are)

loved this piece.its for today and the days to come

Thought Catalog

Erin KellyErin Kelly

Understand that life is not a straight line. Life is not a set timeline of milestones. It is okay if you don’t finish school, get married, find a job that supports you, have a family, make money, and live comfortably all by this age, or that age. It’s okay if you do, as long as you understand that if you’re not married by 25, or a Vice President by 30 — or even happy, for that matter — the world isn’t going to condemn you. You are allowed to backtrack. You are allowed to figure out what inspires you. You are allowed time, and I think we often forget that. We choose a program right out of high school because the proper thing to do is to go straight to University. We choose a job right out of University, even if we didn’t love our program, because we…

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TIME

Hi you..i hope your day is going okay. I hope you  are happy today and smiling.

I need to share something with you..about my feelings today, at this time.

I am in the dark, in my bed. I am listening to Emeli Sande’s Read all about it, a coincidence when i think about it now that im writing to you about my feelings.

Can i ask you something? Do you ever feel like you give so much to everyone, like you love everyone in your life that you value..so much that you would do anything for them?

Then…sometimes you feel like they do everything in their power to push you away? and you wonder why they are doing that because it hurts your feelings? And you wonder why they do somethings that you would never do to them.. Then, you start asking yourself if those people are your friends? Because the person you’re telling asks you, are you still talking about your friends? because they sound like total strangers..

Has it ever dawned on you that you should stop letting people in your life? and when you   do that,it feels so lonely but the loneliness feels better than the pain you get when you feel betrayed?

Do you deal with betrayal on a regular basis? How do you handle it? Do you stay or do you leave? Do you talk or do you keep all quiet and just move on..heart broken..your heart bleeding and nobody  understands?

Do you ever wonder why you cant find someone who wants to go bird watching on wednesday mornings? a person who wants to visit the museum and have icecream after? a person that calls you to ask you to check out the latest art gallery? a person that wants to go for dance classes because they cant do the club dances, they think, just like you that ballroom dancing takes a long time but its way more fun than popping or twerking or grinding? that person that pushes you to go jogging in the morning because its good for you and keeps you fit? a person that wants to go to the library and study for fun and because its so much fun? a person to create stuff with! a person that wants to take up some community service activities because it feels so good helping out! a person who wants to surprise our mothers with a random dinner cooked by us? a person to just look at something and laugh with? a person who wants to see the world and get into any academic competition just to go there because that’s a trip for free.shopping together and making a mockery out of yourselves? going for spa treatments together..?a person who wants to hunt down influential people to interview at dinners or luncheons so that we can have some of that wisdom to last a lifetime? a person that just wants to stare at the stars and wonder and wish and just talk? a person that shares your vision for what life can hold the limitless possibilities! should i go on? you get the drift..

do you ever?

Girls only.

Why you need to fail to have a great career

#FORME #FORYOU #GIRLSONLY

TED Blog

At TEDxUW 2011, economics professor Larry Smith gave a memorable talk titled, “Why you will fail to have a great career.” [ted_talkteaser id=1384]The hilarious talk takes aim at people and the incredible excuses they dream up for not pursuing their passions, from “It’s too hard” to “But I value human relationships more than my work.” His talk was a call for people to get out of their own way and at least try.

At this year’s event, entrepreneur Michael Litt gave his reaction to Smith’s talk, titled, “Why you have to fail to have a great career.” His idea: that failure provides the ultimate experience needed for success — learning to get up and dust yourself off after a fall. Watch above to hear Litt’s candid telling of a time he failed professionally, big time. Since being posting on December 23, this talk has been watched…

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THE FROG..THE PRINCE? IM CONFUSED

Today is one of those days. Filled with deja vu or just an eerie feeling all day. Feeling like i lived five minutes maybe because i was tired and sleepy or maybe i enjoyed my day so much that i didn’t want it to end. Class was awesome (i hope i feel the same way after the bar exams). I did what almost every girl loves, even did my nails today after what might be a Decade to some of us! and i loved it.

I came home, had a chat with my close people and im a Pisces so..we love water. and here i am now, after accomplishing my goal for the night which was to finish up some classwork.

Lets cut to the chase shall we! I Love watching TED talks. its a forum for people who’s ideas are worth the share. it makes you think and feel so much that you thought wasn’t available as a speech from someone. I watch these talks when i am seeking to improve on my public speaking skills, to feed my mind when it feels hungry (because just like the body needs food, the brain needs food in form of knowledge too, i get restless when i don’t read something, anything in a long time, anxiety maybe).

Today i watched one about relationships, because i wanted to figure something out, well i wanted to figure out what happens when one is in an abusive relationship, how to cope with it and why women stay in such relationships.

I am not in one, but i have been. The previous one was emotionally draining for me, very but it made me aware of alot when it comes to boys, and i  would rather have experienced that in a relationship that in marriage.

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The talk, i downloaded it, i have to figure out how to upload videos here though! i will post a link at the end of the post.

The lady talked of how she was abused in her marriage, she got in the relationship with a young man who she loved very much. She had just graduated from Havard and the guy was working for one of the banks on wallstreet. She was attracted to how smart this guy was and how funny he was. The guy, in time, told her about his abusive past relationship with his family. She felt sad for him and loved him more because the guy supported her in most of her endeavors more that anyone else ever did.

After sometime, the guy came home and told her that he had quit his job because of her,. He loved her alot, that is what he said and he wanted them to move. She thought that in relationships, one is required to make sacrifices and so she made one. I forgot to state that before their wedding day, a week before, the guy strangled her till  she couldn’t breathe and she went ahead to marry him.

What she says int this video is that people ask; WHY DO YOU STAY, WHY DON’T YOU JUST LEAVE HIM? WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER?

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She gives a remarkable answer when she says…SHE DID NOT KNOW SHE WAS BEING ABUSED. this means that she thought she was strong woman who loved the husband very much, and he was going through alot ans she would not give up on him but try to help him solve his issues.

How many of us have been battered and bruised, a gun pointed at you and coffee poured on you in the morning as you prepare for an interview? Well, i haven’t.

But guess what…abuse does not have to be physical. Abuse is also emotional.

Emotional abuse from someone you love can be as bad as physical abuse or even worse. You love someone so much but they treat you so bad, meaninglessly and you always think that you are being a good woman, that you are staying because you love him, that its not a big deal he will apologise…All these excuses because you are in denial.

The lady, from the TED talk says that the week before marriage after the abuse, the guy told her all these things, that he is sorry and it will never happen again. But she goes on to say that the abuser has three strategies;

1. Get you to feel that you are in control

2. Isolate you from what you love doing or family and friends (which i think you may do without him necessarily forcing you to)

3. Kill you (to me this means, the guy will kill all the dreams you have of yourself. he will make sure that because you are about to leave, you will have nothing to offer to the world, you will not be happy anymore and you will think of yourself as a mop, dirty and revolting)

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Please be aware of yourself. I chose to do this by writing a list what what i feel and what i expect to feel as per treatment i get from someone and if that doesn’t balance, well, stay away from that person.

If you have a habit of forgiving easy, which may be mistaken by many as forgetting easily and they also take it as being weak, just write down what you do not want to experience and that will deter you, mostly the painful experiences.

Getting emotionally abused is executed by lovers, friends, and even family. Identify what you want, how you want to be treated and if that’s not it, please leave that relationship or avoid the person entirely before they kill you inside.

Note to self. Note to anyone that understands.

#GIRLSONLY.

click on the links for the video and some info i got.

signs of emotional abuse

THE TED TALK I AM TALKING ABOUT, just click on this link.

WHAT MUSIC DOES.

Listening to – where did he go – keri Hilson, and at that point in life, came up with this. Enjoy.

GIRLS ONLY

Well i was  going through my emails today and i bumped into this article that i had written a long time back…hope you all like it.

Listening to music brings out so much.Music should be used everywhere. Especially in class. I know for fact that it would bring the highs of everyone, most of us. When I listen to music, I listen to my heart. I listen to my body, to my brain. There’s that song that everyone wants to listen to when you are hurt, or sad, disappointed,expecting something, when you think about someone, or something..You know, that song, those songs you want to listen to when you feel a mess.

Theres that song that will always be right there for you anytime, everytime. Right now, where did he go. That’s a song by Miss. Keri. What it makes me feel…like I need myself. I need myself to be…

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