WHAT MUSIC DOES.

Well i was  going through my emails today and i bumped into this article that i had written a long time back…hope you all like it.

Listening to music brings out so much.Music should be used everywhere. Especially in class. I know for fact that it would bring the highs of everyone, most of us. When I listen to music, I listen to my heart. I listen to my body, to my brain. There’s that song that everyone wants to listen to when you are hurt, or sad, disappointed,expecting something, when you think about someone, or something..You know, that song, those songs you want to listen to when you feel a mess.

Theres that song that will always be right there for you anytime, everytime. Right now, where did he go. That’s a song by Miss. Keri. What it makes me feel…like I need myself. I need myself to be strong. Like that time I lost uncle and I had to just accept it coz I was a mess. I needed someone to hold me and tell me that it would be okay. We all need something to hold on to and cry to sometimes. We are all human. Where did he go is that song that makes you feel like there’s nobody there when you need them so bad that time. At the same time, it makes you feel so strong. It makes you feel like you have you by your side. It’s that song that makes you grab a pillow and wallow but after releasing all those tears, you feel so empowered.

Dissapointments follow us now and then.. it pains. Visualizing that ten year old girl who wants a bicycle but mum says that she can’t have it. She just goes to her room and cries her all. It’s not much to ask, its not the end of the world, but not getting what you anticipate to get can be a bummer sometimes. That boy who wants the best of the best watch for his birthday and doesn’t get it. It hurts. For these moments, those songs that make you feel like a Spartan are the best. You feel like you conquered death or something.laughing. You know what this does, it changes the gear from one to five. From a zero to a Ten ladies.
PARTY!! Now who goes to a party without music. We all go wild and dance to that beat. The happiness and the joy cannot be expressed. That togetherness with that black ice or that cold tusker and those that are anti alcohol with their novida . This music makes us go to the wildest height of the feeling of friendship. I do not advocate for alcohol but if you can remember, the pilsner adverts that had friends eating choma together and drinking or the men’s challenge which just disappeared had that feel. It just made the whole advert look so, warm. It brought people together.i always sang along..MILELE…MILELE..Tusker my beer excuse my voice though. That coca cola advert that had a family clap for the mom..it went..you are the one….i loved that song. Made me cry, yea, im sissy like that.

What im trying to say here….music is part of us. Part of me. And it brings every nation, every race, every colour together. Because we are simply just human and we all feel. This is how we are all one blood.So next time you listen to a song, write down what you feel. You will be amazed.

XOXO
GIRLS ONLY

Why I Don’t Love My Fiance

love.

Michael J. Pittman

In 130 days I’m getting married, and a friend recently asked me why I love my fiancé. I wanted to share a deeper perspective on Amanda and I’s relationship, so before I answered why I love her, I had to first explain to him the reasons I don’t love my future bride to be.

I came to two conclusions:
First is, I don’t love Amanda for what’s on the outside. I know. It sounds cheesy, it sounds sappy. This perspective is not a novel idea by any means. How many times have you heard someone say, “I don’t love you for what’s on the outside. I love you for what’s on the inside.” But that brings me to my second conclusion.

I don’t love Amanda for what’s on the inside either.

Now don’t get me wrong, there are many things on the inside and outside that I love about

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BEST FRIENDS ARE FOREVER.

still …

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im-sorry

Hi everyone…

Today has been one of those eventful days, and i do not mean that in a good way. I ate really good food today though, because my mum cooked, she is such an amazing cook. I hope to beat her at her game.

Well today something happened to me and it triggered this post. I was thinking, still thinking about a really good friend of mine and it hurts. I think i haven’t been a good friend back.

I would like to talk about what real friends are. I really wanted to do a poem but i think a blog will describe everything in detail.

So my friend has been there through my thick and thin.  I will make this short before i start feeling like i’m so fake i could crack. I believe less is more and i HATE talking too much, not unless im close to…

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Devolution in the health sector; the issues at the County level

using for my dissertation. thanks

herafkenya

HERAF, between 30th July, 2014 and 1st August, 2014 held a training targeting health workers from Runyenjes and Manyatta sub – counties in Embu County. The training, held in partnership with the Embu County Health Management Team, was meant at increasing awareness among health care workers on the right to health, including its realisation in line with the Constitution of Kenya 2010, imparting knowledge among health care workers on the human rights- based approaches in health services provision and providing a forum for the health care workers to interact with the County Health Management Team, including the County Executive for Health, County Director for Health services,  and the Chief Officer, Health.

The Issues

From the prevailing discussions, it was clear to see that devolution of the health sector is facing several challenges. These challenges include but are not limited to the lack of clarity in the due process for…

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BEST FRIENDS ARE FOREVER.

 

im-sorry

Hi everyone…

Today has been one of those eventful days, and i do not mean that in a good way. I ate really good food today though, because my mum cooked, she is such an amazing cook. I hope to beat her at her game.

Well today something happened to me and it triggered this post. I was thinking, still thinking about a really good friend of mine and it hurts. I think i haven’t been a good friend back.

I would like to talk about what real friends are. I really wanted to do a poem but i think a blog will describe everything in detail.

So my friend has been there through my thick and thin.  I will make this short before i start feeling like i’m so fake i could crack. I believe less is more and i HATE talking too much, not unless im close to you then you know i’m a big mouth.

Friends are those that are always there to listen to whatever you have to say no matter what it is because i sometimes go on a rampage and text random stuff for hours. A friend always replies to that or just lets you burst their phone with as many texts as possible.

 

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Friends are those that look in your eyes and you can immediately tell what they are thinking. Their eyes tell a story, of how they are, no need to ask.If you ask, you will certainly get a real answer. I ask ‘how are you’ to know how someone is fairing and i expect a whole story. I hate ‘fine thank you’ as a response.

Friends are those that make you laugh so hard because of silly little things or because you haven’t said anything at all any time of the day or night. Look at each other and just laugh so hard.

Friends look out for you and care about you no matter how hard they try to show that they don’t give a rats behind about how you are. You tell them you miss  them and they go..how do you expect me to respond to that?

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Friends call you by another name other than your name, most of the time, because they can and its more fun that way. Nobody should just pick up when they call because immediately you pick up its just profanity, no greetings.

Friends comfort you when you are about to cry. When you act like mary jane and tell yourself to stop it! and not cry, they are the ones you can call to keep you strong because they will ask you to man up or just make fun of you. They are a call away.

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Friends just look out for you and protect you. You feel that someone is holding your hand through everything, literally and hypothetically. They walk with you, both worlds, in your heart and on the streets of Nairobi, not caring what the world will say about your friendship due to the difference in race or religion.

Friends dance with you, laugh with you, hug you and hold you because they feel everything you feel. They feel your pain, your happiness, your anger and your resentment. They feel everything without saying anything or just saying a little.

Friends talk about everything. private and general. They know where you are and at what time and with who. They know what you like and what you love. They know who you want and who you don’t. They know when they push too hard and when they push you towards the top.

Friends always want the best for you. They always get mad watching you make the wrong decisions all over again. They always don’t get why you do not see what is ahead of you. They always have hope in you that is as big as the titanic. They know what is best for you but they never overstep their boundary even if they know they should.

Friends will always mourn for you and smile with you. They know that they will always have you and vise versa.

And it is beautiful how one person just sucks every emotion out of you. It is chilling how much you worry about a  person because of the unknown. It is heavenly how you know that you always have someone in your heart even if they left.

 

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I love you so  much.

BestFriends Are Forever.

 

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SEX TALK

The psychology behind it.

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Girls!!

Hi, yes, sex talk, thats the topic of discussion today.

Well, i am into psychology alot and i love to investigate about human behaviour and th e way we think. I came across this blog online that tries to explain different sexual tendencies and i thought it would be of help to someone. At least if you are sexually active or if you are thinking of trying to be sexually active. This is important. So, buckle up and i hope you get the important points.

 

The link to more is http://www.guidetopsychology.com/sex_love.htm#n10

 

 

If you look in the DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders),you can find a Sexual Desire Disorder called Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder which refers to “deficient (or absent) sexual fantasies or desire for sexual activity.” The fact that the DSM-IV does not have a Hyperactive Sexual Desire Disorder says quite a lot…

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SEX TALK

Girls!!

Hi, yes, sex talk, thats the topic of discussion today.

Well, i am into psychology alot and i love to investigate about human behaviour and the way we think. I came across this blog online that tries to explain different sexual tendencies and i thought it would be of help to someone. At least if you are sexually active or if you are thinking of trying to be sexually active. This is important. So, buckle up and i hope you get the important points.

The link to more is http://www.guidetopsychology.com/sex_love.htm#n10

If you look in the DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders),you can find a Sexual Desire Disorder called Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder which refers to “deficient (or absent) sexual fantasies or desire for sexual activity.” The fact that the DSM-IV does not have a Hyperactive Sexual Desire Disorder says quite a lot about our culture. Apparently, we seem to believe that “not enough” is a bad thing, but “too much”—at least, in regard to sex—is never too much.

Nevertheless, some persons are troubled by their sexual desires, especially masturbation. Consequently, the term sexual addiction may be used, but it is really just a politically correct way to make it seem that sexual behaviors are matters for medical oversight and control rather than matters of personal responsibility. The truth is, you seek your identity in sexuality because you have been duped by society into believing that sexuality has the power to redeem your emotional emptiness.

You have been duped especially by the entertainment industry, an industry that has worked subversively through movies and television to glamorize the image of lust in our culture. For example, it may seem on the surface that “the woman” has been idealized, but the underlying motive has been to defile the feminine, stripping the female body of its dignity and reducing it, often with violent overtones, to a soulless sex object.

Psychologically, all this fascination with lust has its roots in the emotional emptiness that a person wants to push out of awareness with the illusory thrill of intoxication. This intoxication doesn’t have to be chemical—even gambling can provide quite a “high.” Why else would we talk about any kind of arousal as getting “turned on” by something?

In the 1950s, psychological researchers began to experiment with the intensely pleasurable effects of electrical stimulation of the brain on animal behavior.One study  allowed rats to press a lever that stimulated the pleasure area of the hypothalamus; the rats pressed the lever continuously, several thousand times per hour, even to the point of collapsing from fatigue. Another study  found that female rats would even abandon their own newly born pups for the sake of the brain stimulation.

And so it is with erotic pleasure. The psychological problem with the intoxication by real or imagined sexual stimulation, therefore, is that the pleasure becomes an end in itself.

In the clinical setting, many persons in psychotherapy will confess that, in their childhood and adolescence, they lacked a clear sense of what they wanted to do with their lives because they did not experience real love and guidance from their parents. As a way to cope with the frustration of being overwhelmed by the obligations of a life to which they didn’t feel any commitment in the first place, they turned to a preoccupation with any stimulation divested of any responsibility or commitment. Thus they got caught up in the meaningless euphoria of an impossible quest for a lost meaning to their lives.

Thus pornography takes on the excitement of the search for a stimulating image. Dating takes on the excitement of the search for a stimulating body. Masturbation takes on the excitement of the search for stimulation itself. But it’s all an impossible quest for the real love that a mother and father failed to provide.

Now, some persons might try to justify their unconscious quest by saying that erotic pleasure is “natural.” That’s the real underlying philosophy to the Marquis de Sade’s writings, for example. And his name—de Sade— provides the underlying origin of our word sadism. It all comes down to saying, “Any body—man, woman, child, or animal—is as good as any other body. Anything goes—even someone’s pain—if it serves your pleasure.”

So there’s the “natural” for you.

Moreover, like all natural disasters, lust leaves nothing in its path but destruction—a barren swath of sadistic or masochistic emotional destruction.

So it is that in the obsession with erotic pleasure you don’t want to see the human destruction it causes. And, as long as you’re intoxicated, you can’t see it. As a result, instead of taking personal responsibility to detach yourself from social illusions, you willingly consume them. You have been duped into believing that you can use your own body to heal your emotional despair. It’s not an addiction that troubles you, it’s cultural brainwashing.

Speaking of intoxication, some persons wonder what effect alcohol has on sexual desire. Well, actually, it has no effect. Alcohol simply deadens the inhibitory function of the frontal lobe of the brain. So while the frontal lobe is trying to tell you, “Stop! This isn’t right!” the intoxicating effect of alcohol intercepts that message and substitutes its own subversive message: “Hey, if it feels good, do it.”

I hope you get it and make the right choice. Next time  will post something on homosexuality because its part of our society’s emerging issue. All the best. Remember to love yourself enough to do what is best for you because nobody else loves you as much as you could love you.

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